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'Forgive someone who doesn't deserve it,' writes Moorhead woman in her own obit

Debi Berger of Moorhead, 55, told friends how they can pay tribute to her.

If you want to pay tribute to the Moorhead grandmother known to her family as "Momma Debi," there are several ways to do it. 

You can write a letter to someone, telling them how they've had a positive effect on your life. 

You can stop at every kid-run lemonade stand you see and gush about how delicious the drink is. Or turn off all electronic devices and take kids out for ice cream to ask them about their hopes and dreams.

Those are some of the suggestions spelled out by Debi Berger in the obituary the 55-year-old wrote before her death over the weekend. 

Why she wrote her own obit

Britney Berger explained in a GoFundMe post last week that her mother was told by doctors she had three months to live.

Then Momma Debi spent four years fighting off diseases of the liver, thyroid, and kidney. 

As she stubbornly held on to life, Debi paid attention to the obituaries written for those who died. And she didn't particularly like them – saying most were either dry timelines or overly glowing. 

So she decided to handle her obituary her own way. The result was published Monday.

Debi acknowledged her own imperfections, writing: "I just tried to do the best I could. Sometimes I succeeded, sometimes I failed, but I tried."

Berger thanked those who helped her through life by providing love, help, care, and laughter. 

And she offered suggestions for anyone who would like to do something in her memory. 

Forgiving someone who doesn't deserve it, giving up smoking, and making someone smile when you have the chance to do so are all on her list (Read the whole self-penned obit here.)

A last look at Xmas lights 

Britney Berger tells KSTP her mom did all the things on the list in her obituary, adding that the children who attended the day care she ran for 10 years became part of the family.

Last week Britney asked friends and neighbors to put up their holiday lights early as a favor to her mom, who loved the Christmas displays. 

The request gained attention in Fargo-Moorhead, with the mayor of West Fargo proclaiming it Debi Berger Day on Saturday, which was also the day Momma Debi died. 

The Fargo Forum says the family will hold a private memorial service. Wright Funeral Home is collecting condolences and memories.

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