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Fargo woman won't give obese kids Halloween candy

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A caller to a Fargo radio station is drawing national attention for her plan to hand kids scolding letters instead of candy if she deems them "moderately obese."

Valley News Live first picked up the story after the woman called local radio station Y94 to discuss her plan.

The station has the audio of the 5-minute call, as well as a copy of the letter, which is actually addressed to moms and dads, urging them to "step up as a parent."

During the call, a show host asks why she considers it her business, and she says that by doling out candy, "I feel like I am contributing to their health problems." She later adds, "Really, the whole community is going to be paying for it." She was also asked: Why not just hand out little toys, or nothing? The woman responds, "I want all the kids to still appreciate that I care about them."

NDSU Assistant Professor of Clinical Psychology Dr. Katie Gordon told Valley News Live that the letter likely would do more harm than good. "It's just that kind of thing that for some kids, if they're vulnerable, might trigger major problems," she says.

Among the many news outlets that have picked up the story: USA Today, HuffingtonPost, the Los Angeles Times and "The Today Show".

None of the media outlets pressed for the woman's name, and she has thus far remained anonymous in the fat-shaming scheme.

MPR media watcher Bob Collins says he thinks the call is "probably bogus," noting Y94 is the same station that drew national attention last year for a "deer lady" caller, which many people believed was faked.

Erin Gloria Ryan, a writer at Jezebel, says that it doesn't so much matter if the call was real – it says something about society. "How many of us don't know a person who feels how this woman purports to feel?"

Here's the text of letter:

Happy Halloween and
Happy Holidays Neighbor!

You are probably wondering why your child has this note; have you ever heard the saying, "It takes a village to raise a child"? I am disappointed in "the village" of Fargo Moorhead, West Fargo. Your child is, in my opinion, moderately obese and should not be consuming sugar and treats to the extent of some children this Halloween season. My hope is that you will step up as a parent and ration candy this Halloween and not allow your child to continue these unhealthy eating habits

Thank You

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